Sunday, June 30, 2013

I am going to be Happy

I'm going to be happy. I'm going to skip. I'm going to be glad. I'm going to smile a lot. I'm going to be easy. I'm going to count my blessings. I'm going to look for reasons to feel good. I'm going to dig up positive things from the past. I'm going to look for positive things where I stand. I'm going to look for positive things in the future. It is my natural state to be a happy person. It's natural for me to love and to laugh. This is what is most natural for me. I am a happy person!  ---Abraham Hicks


Living on Purpose

As women we take on many roles. It is in our genetic wiring to be  a multi-functional creature of  doing and being. From an early age we learn to cook, clean and care for others. Growing up, we learn to listen and explore, laugh and love. Through a series of choices and challenges we create our own world.
The space we occupy on this earth is to be treasured and we should be vigilant gatekeepers when choosing our purpose and the way we spend our time.  Life is taught to us by our experiences and the people we have in our lives.  I do believe it is time for women to make a decision to live our lives on purpose with clear goals and dreams in mind.

Saturday, June 29, 2013

The Princess Louise Project

I am working on the Princess Louise story and have found this video clip about her which I thought I should share with you.

This is the opening of the book that I am writing....

“Tell me your story Louise and I will try to give you a voice so that the world will know who you were. Within the pages of this book I am about to write, I will open the door of the golden cage that held you back  and you will be free to  tell your real story through my written words.  As readers, we will be given a glimpse into the life of a woman who was filled with artistic passion, kindness, and in her search for love, made the mistakes that bring us our greatest lessons.  To understand you, will encourage us to look at the truths of our own lives and maybe we will be better able to deal with our own limitations and weaknesses. We will also be more aware of the need to live a more purposeful life and to live our lives without the restraints of our own cages of circumstances.”

This Time I Dance

I read this book  about two years ago. It was just the book I needed to find as I struggled with finding a new direction for my life. As I read it, I felt like I was taken along on Tama Kieve's journey. She was telling me what I needed to here so that I could find the courage to walk away from the expected path and unto  the road less traveled.   Her book  was like  a permission slip that said I had the right to  find my way back to myself and my dreams. 
If you are searching for a way to create a better life for yourself, then this is a book that will definitely enjoy. It broke down just enough of my fears to allow me to quit my day job and jump into the fire of re-creating a life of my choosing.

Find the courage to follow your heart and intuition

From the time we were little children we have been told what to do. We grew up in a world that  was all about conforming to the way our parents  and family thought.  We were told to listen and to behave. We were told to be quiet and to pick up our toys. It was all about should and should nots. It didn't seem to matter what we wanted  because everyone else knew better.  The terrible two's were just the beginning of our rebellion against the way things were but even then, the adults were bigger than us and we were put in place by a scolding. We learned at a young age that if we did not listen to everything adults said, then we  were bad and had reason to feel shame. So we learned all about closing parts of ourselves away.   We created outward personalities to adapt to our own wants and needs.  Some of us became shy, while others went to the extreme and became trouble makers. We went through the school system and learned more rules and things we had no interest in but we had no choice if we wanted to get out of it and make a life of some sort.  We were told that the world is a scary place and that trouble was everywhere. And so on top of  everyone telling us that we were not allowed to do, we also learned that we should be afraid of  taking a chance on anything that did not fit within the normal confines of  the expectations of a standard living.
But the world is changing and more and more we are realising  that we have more rights than we ever thought possible. We can  change our earlier programming and go after what we want. As an adult the only  barriers that remain are the thoughts that we have about ourselves and the outside world.  As an adult, you are allowed to be the person you were meant to be and live a life of your own choosing. Nobody is telling you what to do anymore... you are allowed, stop wasting  your time!

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.   Steve Jobs

Friday, June 28, 2013

Patience while Waiting

 To live a truly real life, we are going to have to wait around for most things and it takes patience. We first realize this when we are small children and ask for one thing after another. Our parents always seem to say wait, or maybe later or that they will have to think about it.   As children we  get upet and cry.  By the time we are adults, we know that it is all a  matter of waiting until we get the time, money, energy  or a thousand other reasons as to why we can't have what we want when we want it.

Life is a waiting game,  but it is in playing the game, that we get to enjoy our time here.  Mom used to say that we shouldn't waste our life away  waiting for something because life passed fast and tomorrow was not guaranteed to be there.

Make the most of your life while patiently waiting for your dreams to arrive!


Thursday, June 27, 2013

The Story of the Butterfly

The Story of the ButterflyA man found a cocoon of a butterfly.
One day a small opening appeared.
He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours
as it struggled to squeeze its body through the tiny hole.
Then it stopped, as if it couldn’t go further.Butterfly
So the man decided to help the butterfly.
He took a pair of scissors and
snipped off the remaining bits of cocoon.
The butterfly emerged easily but
it had a swollen body and shriveled wings.The man continued to watch it,
expecting that any minute the wings would enlarge
and expand enough to support the body,
Neither happened!
In fact the butterfly spent the rest of its life
crawling around.
It was never able to fly.What the man in his kindness
and haste did not understand:
The restricting cocoon and the struggle
required by the butterfly to get through the opening
was a way of forcing the fluid from the body
into the wings so that it would be ready
for flight once that was achieved.Sometimes struggles are exactly
what we need in our lives.
Going through life with no obstacles would cripple us.
We will not be as strong as we could have been
and we would never fly.

Read more:

A Woman Must be Strong

Women are like teabags. We don't know our true strength until we are in hot water!

                                                                                                Eleanor Roosevelt

You are responsible for everything in your life. Yes bad things do happen to good people and we do get hurt and find ourselves in terrible situations that overwhelm our everyday lives.  But we can make a choice to better the situation.   They say that the hard stuff is really life lessons in disguise. Some of us are given a few more lessons then others but if we are willing to keep learning, then we become stronger and wiser people.  They say hard times keep you real because all the trivial things in your life disappear except what really matters. You have to take those hard times, accept them, learn from them and do something about getting out of them. The most important point to remember in these situations is not to let what ever happened to you become an excuse as to why you cannot keep moving forward with your life.

Whatever happened has knocked the wind out of your sails. It has left you stranded, weak, lost and in pain.  Not easy I agree and believe me I have been there several times. Yet experience has made me realize that no matter what has happened; I cannot change it.  Friends and family will gather around you for a little while but they have lives and troubles of their own and they have to move back into their lives and you have to face your reality on your own.  Unexpected things happen, face it for what it is and give your self a chance to lick your wounds. Everyone needs a bit of time to think things through and recover from their hardships but they have to be very careful to not allow themselves to walk into a poor pitiful me frame of mind.  Find another way to deal with your life and circumstances. Listen to this video and see what courage is all about when facing life’s challenges.  
The Last Lecture by Randy Pausch--the lecture that captivated the world is now a book to inspire millions. You can read the book or listen to the video on YouTube


Wednesday, June 26, 2013

A Little Wisdom


Happy Birthday to Me.

"We grow great by dreams. All big men are dreamers. They see things in the soft haze of a spring day or in the red fire of a long winter's evening. Some of us let these great dreams die, but others nourish and protect them; nurse them through bad days till they bring them to the sunshine and light, which comes always to those who sincerely hope that their dreams will come true."

- Woodrow T. Wilson, was the 28th President of the United States.
Well today is my birthday. It  seems that birthdays  come around faster as I get older.  When  I look at this picture of  a very cute little baby ( well I think I was cute) and see the joy that I was feeling , it makes me smile. I  was one year old and maybe it was my birthday because pictures were only taken on special occasions.  Maybe this doll was a birthday gift and I was smiling because it was from my Mom.  My little feet  must have been kicking in delight and  the picture shows me with my arms ready to hug it. I can tell I was happy.
After all these years, I still have that desire to find happiness in the little things in life.  Being an adult  is more complicated and heavy but I believe  that inside of all of us is that  little bubble of joy waiting to express itself.  I think that all too often, we  forget about it as we get caught up in the seriousness of our lives.... but it is always there waiting for us after the storms  have passed.   
Today I would suggest that you all find a baby picture of yourself or one of you as a child and put it somewhere  so that you will be reminded of who you really are, before the need to grow up and get serious  pushed  your joyous little self aside.  You are still that little person and you can still grow up happy in simple ways, if you check back in with yourself once and a while.
 Have a great day and spread some kindness,

Tuesday, June 25, 2013

Patience Life is a Journey

Princess Louise..
"Patience child, patience. Remember, life is a journey. If you got everything you wanted all at once there’d be no point to living. Enjoy the ride, and in the end you’ll see these ‘setbacks’ as giant leaps forward, only you couldn’t see the bigger picture in the moment. Remain calm, all is within reach; all you have to do is show up every day, stay true to your path and you will surely find the treasure you seek.”
- Jackson Kiddard

Consider for a minute, every movie that has ever touched your heart, every story that still moves you, or every hero/heroine that has inspired you. The art of storytelling is magic, it spins a tale that leaves you entertained, educated and sometimes forever changed.  As I work on my book proposal for Louise's story I am reminded that there is a time for eveything in life... a time to sow, a time to reap, a time to laugh, a time to cry, a time to face the hardtimes and worries and a time to let go and  trust that life will take you  towards better times.   It has taken me thirteen years to get to this time and now the real work must begin while balancing everything else in life.  This  time I will balance the scale  and I  will tip it in my favor, for I am wiser now and have finally realised that it was me controlling it the whole time.  And so I am off to tell my stories,  write my books, and create my dreams. Yes there is magic in storytelling for unlike real life, maybe I can write a happy ending.

Have a great day and spread some kindness.



Monday, June 3, 2013

I am writing from a Place called the Gaspe Coast

 I  am working today from home and just happened to find this old  footage of life on the Gaspe Coast on a You tube clip. The music and footage are so familiar  and it reflects the heritage of who we are as Gaspesians. Watching this makes me feel like I belong to this special place.   The Coast is a unique place with an interesting mix of cultures that made the penisula what it is today.  Its history tells a story of people of Irish, Scottish, English, Jersey, Acadian, French, and the Native Mik'Maq people who were determined to turn the land into a place that they could call home. Their lives were filed with struggles, yet I cannot help but admire their determination to  survive and thrive under what must have been harsh conditions.  Yes I am proud to be a Gaspesian.

Saturday, June 1, 2013

The Writer's Life

You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream
C. S. Lewis

 Today on June first, I find myself working on my book and making some serious decisions as to how to get it written while trying to do everything else. I am slowly working towards getting my certification  to be a women's life coach through the S.W.A.T Institute which I hope to successfully attain by next year at this time. In the meantime I have to earn a living and keep a house going.   In other words I am a busy little girl with  a big dream.